Ways to calm an overactive mind

I know I'n not the only one with an inner voice that is constantly narrating what's going on around me -  practising anecdotes, imagining difficult conversations and arguments, worrying about different scenarios, or worst of all repeating the same catchy lines from a song over and over again! Sometimes it's helpful, but most of the time it's just constant chatter that makes me feel more anxious and overwhelmed.

So here are some of the ways that I try to keep that inner voice at bay as much as I can:

Keeping away from social media and news websites - This is probably the biggest one for me. I often find myself scrolling, particularly Reddit or Mumsnet, to try and soothe anxiety. It can help in the moment, but over time it definitely makes it worse. If I make a commitment first thing to avoid it for the day then I find that I can keep to it quite easily, and I really do feel much better for it. I have enough going on my head already without needing to fill it with a multitude of voices and opinions from other people!

Writing it all down - I like to write in my journal, but I also find that writing a blog post can have a similar affect, although I end up going back and heavily editing it. Just getting all those thoughts out of my head and down on paper. If I'm worrying about lots of things that I need to get done or that I need to remember then I write them all down in a long list in my planner. 

Making a hot drink - I don't drink a lot of tea or coffee, but I do like a nice hot chocolate. I'm working through a stash built up from Christmas as well as some fancy varieties that my husband brought me back from a work trip. I like the process of making the drink - find a coaster and mug, heating up the milk, stirring. Then sipping it, and really focussing on the taste and the experience as well as they physical warmth. 

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Going outside for a walk or a run - Although sometimes the inner monologue does follow me while I'm running, it doesn't bother me so much and I do sometimes find that it helps me to get my thoughts in order.

Reading - In particular reading something light with an interesting story that I can really get into. Concentrating on what I'm reading really helps me to focus my mind and feel calmer. 

Doing a stretch or yoga workout - I have a few exercise videos saved in my playlist that always make me feel more relaxed and calm. They aren't long, only 8-10 minutes, and feature peaceful music in a scenic setting - I find that I always switch off when I'm doing them. I've linked one of my favourites below. Although it's titled as a stretch for splits it's just a really good way to stretch out the leg muscles.

Doing a jigsaw - I'm currently a bit obsessed with completing jigsaw puzzles, I have a large one out on the dining table that I'm working on every day. The initial sort through of the pieces is really relaxing, and then building the edge so that you can see the area you are working with. My favourite moment comes about two thirds of the way through, when I'm familiar with the picture and I can easily start slotting the pieces in place. It's really satisfying every time you put a piece in place, and I can get lost in a jigsaw for ages. Even if I get interrupted, when I come back to it I always find a piece that I'd been looking for straightaway!

Lighting a candle - I don't know why but having a lit candle nearby always makes me feel relaxed. Maybe it goes back to caveman days, gazing into the campfire at the end of a long day.

Mindfulness - I've put this at the end, because it's something that I'm still working on. It's something that you really need to practice, and I need to try and work on it a little more. I've tried various apps for inspiration but I prefer to just work on it by myself. I like to imagine the inside of my mind as an empty stage, and every time a thought comes I send it off the stage and back into the wings! It's also a really good way to learn to focus on steady breathing rather than the inner voice.

Our garden project - before

At the end of last year we completed our fantastic orangery extension to the back of our house. We are so pleased with it, we spend so much time in there now and feel really fortunate that we were able to make such a lovely addition to our home. The only thing that isn't so lovely is our poor garden! It was never exciting to begin with, and after all the work it has been pretty much destroyed. 

We wanted to wait a few months before getting started, to make sure that we knew exactly what we wanted and also to get the finances in place. I know a lady who works as a garden designer, and so we commissioned her to come up with a design for our blank canvas garden. She has produced a beautiful design which really makes the most of the space, and I'm so excited to see how it looks when it's finished!

We are going to have a large patio at the back which will come out at the same level as indoors and uses matching tiles, so when the weather is warm we can open the bifold doors and it will feel like one space. There will a second paved area in the back corner for some seating, our fire pit, or hopefully a place to get our hot tub out again and a small lawn in the middle, surrounded by lots of plants and trees.

When it comes to planting I'm a bit hopeless, but I think if we can get a planting plan designed and set up then I'll be able to maintain it. We just need advice on what to plant and where to plant it!

The front garden has always been a bit of a mess. The grass doesn't get any sun, so it's mainly weeds, and the hedge is old and overgrown and looking very scruffy. I love my apple tree but it needs a bit of attention, and it's too tall now for me to easily prune it. We are going to use the same patio slabs to make more of a feature of the front entrance and to make a path leading around to the back, then use pebbles to make a beach themed planting area which should bring to mind our local pebbly beaches.

We are using the same landscaping company that we used to build our extension as we were so pleased with them. The work started with the first of several massive deliveries of building materials, I do feel sorry for our poor neighbours that have put up with all our disruption for a little while now. At least once this project is done we won't be doing any more work like this to the house for years - probably not ever!

The Benefits of a New Build Home as a Family?

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If you’re considering moving house with a family, then you might be tempted by the idea of moving into something that’s been built in the last year or so – or even something that hasn’t yet been built. New-build homes tend to offer a number of special advantages, which families, in particular, may appreciate. Let’s take a look at a few of the more important upsides.

Energy Efficiency and Lower Running Costs

New-build homes are designed from the ground up with the needs of a modern household in mind. They are well-insulated, but won’t run into any of the ventilation problems that come with insulating an older property. They also tend to come with modern boilers (or heat pumps), double-glazed windows, and secure doors as standard. As such, you won’t need to worry about paying extra for upgrades in years to come.

Modern Design and Family-Friendly Layouts

The interior layout of a new build property also tends to be shaped to the tastes of modern families. That, for the most part, means wide open spaces, and combined kitchens, diners, and living areas. This might contrast with the multitude of smaller rooms you might find on the inside of, say, a hundred-year-old cottage. If your family has the same needs and tastes as the average one, then a new build property might provide exactly the kind of interior you’re looking for.

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Lower Maintenance and Fewer Repairs

Newer homes haven’t yet had time to experience wear and tear, which, generally speaking, makes them cheaper to run. You won’t have to put money into replacing or refurbishing your interior – and you can often have a say in how the place is decorated, which will save you the time and energy that comes with making changes to the interior. As such, you’ll be able to put more money into the changes that really add value to the property, like extensions and loft conversions.

Safe, Secure, and Well-Planned Communities

Many developments filled with new homes have been designed to function as self-contained neighbourhoods. You probably won’t have to deal with through traffic, which might lower the risk of crime, and help to ensure a safe environment in which to bring up your children. With that said, there can still be considerable variety between new-build neighbourhoods, and it’s worth checking the local crime statistics to see exactly what you’re moving into.

My experience buying jigsaws in charity shops

I've been buying books secondhand in charity shops for years, but even though I love jigsaw puzzles and find them expensive to buy new, until recently I had never considered buying one secondhand. But it I've been doing some browsing in local charity shops recently and I thought I would give it a go. 

I find that prices range from around £3-4 which is a fraction of the cost of a new jigsaw, and when I expect pieces to be missing I'm less worried than when I've paid a lot for a new puzzle.

Here are all the charity shop jigsaws that I've completed so far - and I'm delighted to announce that none of them had a single missing piece! Some of them even had the edge pieces pre-sorted for me!

Spring on Park Avenue - Galison

Minifigure Puzzle - Lego

Space Hoppers and Scooters - Gibson

The Artist's Desk - Ravensburger

Shiny Summer - Andrea Tilk

The Fantasy Bookshop - Ravensburger

Cats and Plants - Corner Piece

There are a few things to be wary of with a secondhand puzzle. I have one jigsaw in my to do pile which has quite a strong smell of smoke. I'm hoping that as I work on it the smell will dissipate, but it is putting me off making a start. Another couple have had a slight smell of perfume, and one had quite a few cat hairs in the box. Not a problem for me as I'm not allergic, but I have to keep hoovering my jigsaw area.

World Wonders Panorama - Ravensburger

My current puzzle is a charity shop find that I was really pleased with. I was looking for some jigsaws with a larger piece count as they can be very expensive to buy new, and I love maps. I found this Ravensburger 2000 piece World Wonders Panorama map jigsaw which I was delighted with -  I paid just £4 instead of the £30 or so it would cost new. Ravensburger is my favourite jigsaw puzzle manufacturer as I find that the pieces are sturdy and fit together really well. I've barely started but I'm working on it with the assumption that there will be pieces missing - it will be amazing if it's complete!

Introducing Lily the Lemon Tree

We are really pleased with our new orangery, and we've slowly been adding the finishing touches. The one thing missing is some greenery, and my husband was very keen on the idea of an orange or lemon tree. I wasn't sure at first because we aren't the most green-fingered people, and because we go away a lot I was a bit worried about how we would look after it. But a friend recommended a local citrus nursery, The Citrus Centre in Pulborough, and so we decided to go along and take a look.

We were really impressed! They had a huge selection of trees in all shapes and sizes, and the lady was really helpful. She could see that we were beginners and so she recommended that we start with a lemon tree. It's a four season tree, so there will fruit and buds all year round, and they are the easiest type of citrus tree to start with. We agonised over a few that were a similar size and shape before settling on an Amalfi lemon tree.

We transported our tree home like a newborn baby, going slowly around the bends, gently over the bumps, and with me sat in the back to look after it.

The tree will live inside over the winter and then move outside over the summer when the orangery will be too hot. It's almost time to move it outside, but we are having work done on the garden over the next few weeks so it will live inside until that is finished. I was surprised to learn that they only need to be watered every couple of months or so, and then when you do water them you give them lots all at once along with some feed.

We've bought her a pot and have named her Lily. We will be leaving most of the fruit on the tree for decoration, but as it had six lemons when we bought it we did harvest one which I used to make a delicious lemon drizzle cake. 

I really hope that Lily is with us for a long time to come!

My current obsession - jigsaw puzzles

Recently I read this quote - "A puzzle won't solve all of your problems, but a puzzle is a problem you can solve" - attributed to Rachel Miller. It helped to explain why I've spent the last few weeks obsessed with doing jigsaw puzzles, it's a brilliant way to calm my mind and to feel that I'm keeping things in order.

I go through phases with my jigsaws, sometimes I'll be working on one after another after another, and then I'll put away my jigsaw board for months at a time. Recently I've been doing some book shopping in charity shops, and I decided to try my luck with buying some jigsaws, deciding to make peace with the fact that they may not be complete. 

Although the local charity shops do stock plenty of jigsaws, I'm quite fussy about what I like. I prefer a modern illustrative image rather than a photo, and I'm not keen on the cutesy, nostalgic scenes that seem to make up most of the offering. For my first purchase I was delighted to find this New York street scene jigsaw, and when I found that it was in good condition with no missing pieces I went searching for some more!

It took a bit of browsing, but I came home with a small haul. I couldn't resist starting with this Lego Minifigures jigsaw which wasn't nearly as difficult as I was expecting. It was really fun to put together and not that difficult at all - I loved all the different figures. It was a nice alternative to all the actual Lego that I've been building recently to sell on Ebay!

Lego - Minifigure Puzzle

This jigsaw with an illustration of nostalgic toys is as far into the nostalgia theme as I'm prepared to go! It was a sweet collection of different childhood toys, one of those puzzles that you can't really sort into sections you just have to lay out all the pieces and hunt for them a few at a time.

Gibsons - Space Hoppers & Scooters

This puzzle from Ravensburger I borrowed from my Mum, I suspect it was another charity shop purchase as the edge pieces were neatly sorted into a little sandwich bag inside! I don't mind that at all, it saves me a job and it also suggests that the previous puzzler cared about making sure that all the pieces were present. I think that Ravensburger is my favourite jigsaw manufacturer when it comes to the shape and fit of the pieces, and this one was a lot easier than it looked!

Ravensburger - The Artist's Desk

Finally I'm currently working on the last puzzle in my stash, another Ravensburger called The Fantasy Bookshop. I've been admiring this one for a while online, so I was really pleased to spot it for just a few pounds. It's quite a tricky one because there are lots of similar looking pieces, but it's coming together nicely. I'm really enjoying making the most of our extension and working on my puzzles in the sunshine under our beautiful lantern roof.

Now that I've reached the end of my pile I think it's time to do some more shopping, and this time I might see if I can find one with a few more pieces than my usual 1000 - maybe then I won't be getting through them quite as quickly!

A look at my current To Be Read pile...

I've been reading quite a lot recently, but I've also developed a slight shopping addiction when it comes to buying books. I rarely buy a new book, but I do find it difficult to pass a charity shop without adding some bargains to my stash and I seem to have had a few shopping opportunities recently.

I thought I'd share a little look at my current To Be Read pile, to try and motivate myself to carry on working my way through it! The pile is stored next to my bed as that is where I do a lot of my reading. Most of the books are from charity shops, although a couple are new ones that I've received as gifts.

Three of them are books which I have previously borrowed, read and enjoyed, and I wanted to own my own copy to read before I add them to my shelf. They are All The Light We Cannon See by Anthony Doerr, The Paper Palace by Miranda Cowley Heller and Ladder of Years by Anne Tyler. These will be easy to get through because I know that I really like them!

Two of them are books which I have started and have become stuck on as they were just not grabbing me. They are Steve Jobs by Walter Isaacson, which I would like to finish, and War and Peace by Leo Tolstoy which I decided I wanted to read just to say that I had and am not regretting. They do take up a lot of space and make me feel guilty when I see them, so maybe I just need to admit defeat and pass them on.

There are also two other books that are in progress - Showstopper by Peter Lovesey isn't my usual sort of book but I've borrowed it and want to read it. The Pillow Book by Sei Shonagon I've been reading for ages, I just dip in and out of it.

The Forsyte Saga by John Galsworthy is an old edition which was my Grandma's. There are two by Haruki Murakami - What I Talk About When I Talk About Running and Men Without Women which I'm looking forward to reading. My Father's House by Joseph O'Conner I picked up because I really enjoyed Star of The Sea. 

There are a few non-fiction - How to Speak Whale by Tom Mustill which I bought for my son, then The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat by Oliver Sacks and The Magic of Reality by Richard Dawkins. All of these require a little more concentration to get through!

Finally, hidden in plain sight at the very top of the pile you will spot my Kindle in it's flowery case. I try not to think about all the unread books that are in there. Every month I get at least one book from the Kindle First Reads selection and I also have a selection from Amazon Prime Reading as well as the free ones that I download occasionally. There are currently 25 books in my unread books collection...I wouldn't have the room for all of them as physical books! 

A couple of years ago I wrote a blog post full of tips on working through the pile of unread books - How to conquer your To Be Read pile - which I think has some really helpful advice which I'm definitely going to be re-visiting!

Jason Donovan Doin' Fine 25 tour in Worthing

I've been a fan of Jason Donovan for a very long time. As a pre-teen my bedroom walls and doors were covered with his posters, and his cassettes were played over and over again. So when I heard way back in late 2023 that he was touring, and not only that would coming to very close by Worthing, of course I was first in line to get tickets!

At the time of booking we misread the details and were under the impression that the concert was in March 2024, so it was a bit of a surprise when I went to enter it into the calendar and realised that it was actually another year away. It felt as though we had been eagerly anticipating the evening for a very long time!

The venue for this leg of the tour was Worthing Assembly Hall. I had never been there before but am familiar with it because my children's school have used it for end of year assemblies and the like. I wouldn't have said that it was the most illustrious venue, not even out of those available in Worthing, but it exceeded my expectations!

We had excellent seats just a few rows back and so we had a great view. I have been lucky enough to see Jason Donovan perform in Joseph and the Amazing Technicolour Dreamcoat twice, first time around when he was Joseph and then a few years ago as the Pharoah, so Any Dream Will Do was a definite highlight. It was so funny when the audience sang along to the backing vocals, I think everyone knows it by heart from singing it at school! 

In fact I was singing along for most of the night, it's amazing how all those lyrics are still there buried in my brain from listening to him over and over as a child.

He sang a couple more songs from musicals, a few covers, and of course all of his greatest hits. The atmosphere was amazing, everyone was really into it and singing along and dancing. It was a great night, and I had a huge grin on my face the entire time! If he's performing near you and you fancy a fun evening I'd definitely recommend it!

Five stunning trails perfect for solo female hikers over 40

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For women over 40, solo hiking is a powerful journey of self-discovery, resilience, and connection with nature. The right trail offers stunning scenery, solitude without isolation, and a safe yet exhilarating experience. Whether you're a seasoned trekker or a first-time adventurer, choosing the perfect path lets you embrace the wilderness at your own pace.

In this guide, we’ll dive into five stunning trails meticulously selected for their suitability for solo female hikers over 40.

1. Shenandoah National Park, Virginia – A Tranquil Appalachian Escape

Nestled in the Blue Ridge Mountains, Shenandoah National Park is a perfect retreat for solo female hikers seeking tranquility, beauty, and well-marked trails. With a scenic stretch of the Appalachian Trail, it offers endless exploration. Old Rag Mountain challenges hikers, while Stony Man Trail provides a shorter, rewarding trek with breathtaking panoramic views.

Wildlife sightings, cascading waterfalls, and vibrant wildflowers enhance the park’s tranquil atmosphere, making it a perfect destination for solo adventurers.

A National Park Service report reveals that 1.5 million visitors explored Shenandoah National Park in 2023, contributing $114 million to nearby communities. This spending supported 1,351 local jobs, highlighting the park’s economic impact. Overall, the park generated a $156 million benefit, reinforcing its value as a top hiking destination. 

How can I prepare for sudden weather changes in the Appalachian region?

Appalachian weather shifts rapidly. Pack layers like waterproof outer shell, fleece, and moisture-wicking base layers. Check forecasts, but be prepared for unexpected rain, wind, or temperature drops. Carry a map, compass, and emergency shelter. Inform someone of your hiking plans.

2. Sedona’s Red Rock Trails, Arizona – A Spiritual and Scenic Experience

Sedona, Arizona, offers a breathtaking mix of rugged desert landscapes, towering sandstone formations, and a uniquely spiritual atmosphere. Ideal for solo female hikers over 40, these trails provide a sense of serenity and rejuvenation. 

Popular trails like Cathedral Rock Trail and Bell Rock Pathway offer breathtaking panoramic views of Sedona’s red rock landscapes. The Boynton Canyon Trail is famous for its energy vortex, drawing hikers seeking both adventure and spiritual renewal. With well-marked paths and frequent visitors, Sedona provides solitude while ensuring a reassuring sense of safety.

Enhance your Sedona hiking experience with the 7.5-mile Red Rock Scenic Byway, offering abundant sights, as confirmed by US News. The visitor center, a mile south of Oak Creek, is open daily (9 a.m. to 4:30 p.m.) with essential amenities. While the byway itself is always accessible, remember that certain areas may require a $5 day-use fee. This ensures you're fully prepared for your spiritual and scenic solo journey. 

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3. Glacier National Park, Montana – Majestic Views and Wildlife Encounters

For mature solo female hikers, Glacier National Park provides a perfect mix of solitude, stunning scenery, and exciting wildlife encounters. Nicknamed the "Crown of the Continent," it offers a diverse range of trails. Hikers can enjoy everything from easy lakeside walks to challenging alpine adventures amidst breathtaking landscapes.

The Hidden Lake Overlook Trail offers breathtaking views of glacial waters, while the Highline Trail provides an unforgettable ridge-top experience. Hikers may encounter mountain goats, marmots, and even grizzly bears, making bear safety precautions essential. With pristine forests, crystal-clear lakes, and towering peaks, Glacier National Park promises a truly awe-inspiring adventure.

According to the National Geographic Society, Glacier National Park offers over 700 miles of trails, catering to hikers of all levels. The main entry points are West Glacier, located 25 miles from Whitefish, and St. Mary on the park’s eastern side. Additional access points include Two Medicine and Many Glacier, though these roads are dead ends. 

4. Great Smoky Mountains, Tennessee/North Carolina – Misty Trails and Waterfalls

The Great Smoky Mountains National Park is a perfect destination for solo female hikers, featuring misty peaks, lush forests, and cascading waterfalls. With over 850 miles of trails, it offers options for all skill levels. The Alum Cave Trail boasts unique rock formations, while Laurel Falls Trail provides an easy, scenic waterfall hike.

The Smokies are rich in biodiversity, with abundant wildlife and vibrant wildflowers throughout the year. The well-marked trails and frequent visitors ensure both solitude and a sense of security for solo adventurers.

What are the best beginner-friendly trails for solo hikers in the Smokies?

Laurel Falls Trail is a paved 2.6-mile hike leading to a stunning waterfall, making it ideal for beginners. Cades Cove Loop offers scenic views with minimal elevation. Kephart Prong Trail is an easy 4-mile trek with charming footbridges.

5. Olympic National Park, Washington – Coastal, Forest, and Mountain Adventures

For solo female hikers, Olympic National Park offers an unparalleled mix of coastal, rainforest, and mountain trails. With over 1,400 square miles of protected wilderness, the park’s diverse landscapes provide endless opportunities for adventure. The Hoh Rainforest Trail immerses hikers in lush, moss-draped scenery, while the Hurricane Ridge Trail offers sweeping mountain vistas. 

For a serene coastal trek, the Rialto Beach Trail provides breathtaking ocean views and sea stacks. 

Health Considerations for Solo Female Hikers Over 40

Staying healthy on the trail is just as important as choosing the right destination. For solo female hikers over 40, prioritizing hydration and maintaining energy levels can prevent fatigue and muscle cramps. Carrying electrolyte tablets and energy-boosting snacks like nuts or protein bars can help sustain stamina throughout the hike. Additionally, wearing supportive footwear and using trekking poles can reduce strain on the joints, making long hikes more comfortable.

For those managing pelvic organ prolapse (POP), a common concern with 40+ women, hiking can be challenging, especially on uneven terrain. In the past, vaginal mesh implants were commonly used to treat this condition. 

However, the vaginal mesh lawsuit brought attention to serious complications, including chronic pain, infections, and mesh erosion. Due to these concerns, many women now explore alternative treatments.

According to TruLaw, numerous women underwent implant procedures without a full understanding of the potential risks and complications. The FDA has highlighted serious safety concerns regarding medical devices and emphasised the healthcare industry's duty to protect patients.

This makes consulting a doctor before embarking on a strenuous hike essential to ensure safety and avoid exacerbating existing health issues.

What are the best ways to manage pelvic organ prolapse (POP) symptoms on a hike?

Wear a pelvic support belt, pick low-impact trails, and use trekking poles for stability to manage pelvic organ prolapse (POP) symptoms while hiking. Practice core and pelvic floor exercises beforehand. Also, stay hydrated to prevent constipation, consume more fiber, and limit beverages that can irritate the bladder, which may provide relief. Take frequent breaks, and listen to your body to avoid overexertion.

Embrace the Journey: Discover the Joy of Solo Hiking

Solo hiking offers women over 40 a chance to connect with nature, build confidence, and find peace on the trail. With proper preparation and the right mindset, these breathtaking trails provide the perfect mix of challenge and safety. Whether seeking serenity, adventure, or self-discovery, age is never a barrier to exploration.

What I've been up to lately - February 2025

It's been a difficult start to the new year and my mind has very much been elsewhere - I've not been feeling like blogging or in fact like doing many things. But now I'm trying to pick up some of the things that I've let go, and so here are some of the things that I've been up to lately.

Organising

There's something about sorting through someone's possessions that makes you re-evaluate the things that you have lying around, and I've definitely been feeling in the mood for some decluttering.

Since the beginning of the year I have been working through the clutter in our spare bedroom, mainly old toys. I spent hours sorting out all the old Lego sets, checking them, finding all the missing pieces and then listing on eBay. I've been very successful! Now that I've got the hang of eBay I'm having a good look around the house to see what else I can get rid of. It's not even all about the money (although that's certainly a big motivation!), I also like the satisfaction of knowing that something has gone to a good home. 

This weekend I've been working on organising our new space now that our extension is finally finished. My new bookcase had remained empty for weeks, and I've finally had a big sort through and re-homed books which were lying about all over the place. Now I have fiction books in the living room and non fiction in the orangery and I still have plenty of space to fill!

Reading

I have been doing lots of reading! Here are just some of the books that I've particularly enjoyed over the last couple of months:

Fourteen Days (Various authors)

All Over Creation by Ruth Ozeki

What You Are Looking For is in the Library by Michiko Aoyama

The Beforelife of Eliza Valentine by Laura Pearson

Eating

I've been trying to eat healthily as we all do in the new year, but I'm afraid that I have given up a little bit. I've been eating far too many biscuits and Maltesers, and drinking far too much tea. I'm being kind to myself at the moment but I'll definitely be making more of an effort to eat better food in a few weeks time.

Shopping

When visiting my Mum she introduced me to a lovely new shop which has just opened in her town - Søstrene Grene. She described it as Flying Tiger for grown ups and that's exactly what it is - a shop filled with beautiful things that you didn't know you needed, laid out so that you don't miss anything. I rarely impulse buy, but on my first visit I came home with three rolls of washi tape, a bowl and a jigsaw. The next visit added more washi tape, a bag of loose tea leaves and hot chocolate. I wonder what I'll pick up next time?!

Watching

I've really been enjoying the television adaptation of Earth Abides which is based on one of my favourite books. Although they've changed the time period from the 1940s to the modern day it has a nostalgic feeling to it, and I think that the casting is excellent. It's quite a slow watch which appeals to me, and because I know the story really well I don't need to concentrate too much!

I'm also watching the latest series of Sort Your Life Out which I watch on iPlayer. Every episode is essentially the same but it definitely gives me inspiration to have a sort through my cupboards!

Crafting 

My crafting has fallen by the wayside a little lately, I've just not been feeling like picking anything up. I haven't journalled in ages and I really wanted to get back on with my cross stitch this year. I'll be picking it up again soon but in the meantime I've been working on some jigsaws. I have some that I received for Christmas and some that I bought on holiday so I have a few to keep me busy. The one below is called The City That Never Sleeps by Galison. I like that I can work on them when I have a few spare minutes and it's really satisfying to watch the picture build up.

Listening to

I've been doing a lot of driving recently so I've been making full use of the Spotify subscription. I've been enjoying singing along to the Wicked soundtrack and also listening to podcasts. At the moment I'm liking the Feel Better Live More podcast with Dr Rangan Chaterjee - he has such an easy voice to listen to!

Looking forward to

I'm looking forward to feeling a bit more like myself again and picking up my neglected projects. We are lucky enough to have tickets to lots of concerts this year (including Jason Donovan next week - I can't wait) and we have also booked a very adventurous holiday for the summer. So there are plenty of exciting things to think about!

Review - The CuteBee Christmas Wish Store Book Nook craft kit

I received this craft kit in exchange for a review

Earlier this year I shared a preview review for the CuteBee Book Nook craft kit with a Christmas theme, and I'm delighted to say that I have now finished this lovely kit and I can share a full review!

The Christmas Wish Store Book Nook is designed to sit on a bookshelf and offer a glimpse into a magical world nestled within. This kit has a Christmas theme, and not only does it feature Christmas toys, gifts and decorations it also has interactive elements - there are cleverly positioned lights which can be turned on and off, the Christmas tree can be rotated using a cog at the back, and there is even a music box tucked inside for some Christmas music!

The kit contains almost everything that you need to create the book nook - all that you need to supply is some glue and batteries. The kit is very well packaged in a handy box which you can use to keep everything together while you are working on it. 

You complete the kit by carefully working through the instruction booklet. Most of the elements that you need for the construction are small wooden pieces which are pressed out from clearly labelled wooden sheets. It's best to pop them out as you need them, otherwise you would easily get into a muddle! I found that all the pieces were easy to remove from the backing. Some of the very tiny or fragile parts have a spare in case you have any problems with removal or build.

I found it very straightforward to work through the instructions and assemble each component at a time. Some of the parts aren't needed until later on, so it's helpful to have a box or somewhere to keep pieces as you build them, and make sure that you don't miss the step to add them later on! You do need to be quite firm when it comes to pressing the pieces out and slotting them together, sometimes I was a little timid but you do need to use a small amount of force. 

I didn't add much extra glue apart from where it was recommended, but if a piece felt a little loose I added a small amount just to make sure it remained sturdy. You need to make sure to follow the instructions very carefully - for example the pieces are printed on one side and you need to make sure that the printed side will be the one facing outwards when complete.

There are several lightbulbs that need to be secured in the correct places. There is no wiring involved but you do need to be careful to make sure that you are working with the right piece of wire as they are all different lengths. This was a little fiddy in places but not too complicated.

When finished the book nook forms a sealed unit with a plastic sheet at the front to keep it dust free. I did have to make one modification, because I found that the sensor for the lights didn't work through the wood as it is supposed to. I ended up cutting a small corner from the top of the box and posting the wires through so that the switch is accessible from the outside. It's not the prettiest solution, but it's much easier than having to remove the front each time to turn the lights on and off.

Below is a photograph with the plastic front removed so that you can see the inside fully without reflectio. There is a lot of detail inside, and I love the bright colours and cute elements. The printing on the pieces is really clear. There are also some plastic pieces which are glued in place, like the tree and snowman at the front. Several of the elements are accessorised with shiny tinsel, for some sparkle when the lights are turned on.

I really enjoyed putting this kit together - it was complicated enough to be challenging but still fun to put together. I assembled it over several evenings and I found it an absorbing craft that I wanted to keep working on. I loved clipping together all the tiny pieces and seeing how it all fitted together so beautifully to make a really sweet little festive decoration.

There are lots more of these craft kits in the series and they would make a great gift for the crafty person in your life.

Key considerations for taking an impromptu road trip with your baby

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Road trip planning becomes a whole new ballgame when you have a baby. An impromptu trip may seem challenging at first, but with the right preparation, it can become a cherished experience. Whether escaping daily life or visiting family, traveling with a baby requires a balance of spontaneity and thoughtful planning.

In this guide, we’ll explore key factors to help you navigate the joys and challenges of traveling with your little co-pilot. 

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Safety First: Check Your Vehicle

Before setting off on an impromptu road trip with your baby, your vehicle must be in top condition. Start by thoroughly inspecting the lights, tires, and brakes. Ensure your tire pressure matches the manufacturer’s recommendations and that there’s no excessive wear on the treads. 

Check your car seat to confirm it is securely installed and age-appropriate for your child. Car seats provide substantial protection for children in crashes, mitigating the danger of injury by 71-82% compared to seat belts, according to the CDC. For children ages 4–8, booster seat use decreases the risk of serious injury by 45% when compared to seatbelt use alone. 

Also, the study found that booster seats reduce the occurrence of moderate and serious crash injuries in children ages 7–8. 

Be prepared for unforeseen circumstances by including an emergency kit in your vehicle. A pre-trip visit to a mechanic for a quick tune-up can save you from unexpected breakdowns. Remember, safety encompasses both your baby and your vehicle. A reliable vehicle ensures a smoother and more peaceful trip.

Plan Your Route and Stops

Even with an impromptu itinerary, a thoughtful route is essential for a smooth journey with your baby. Incorporate regular stops for feeding, changing, and stretching at rest areas or family-friendly locations. Utilize navigation apps to proactively address potential traffic challenges and ensure a smoother trip.

Plan your driving schedule around your baby's routine, such as starting the journey after a nap or during their usual sleeping hours. HealthyChildren advises that you and your baby should get out of the car every few hours to stretch and prevent restlessness. 

For day trips, stop every 2-3 hours; for nighttime travel, stop every 4-6 hours to change or feed. Avoid breastfeeding while the car is moving. 

Packing the Essentials

Efficient packing is crucial for a smooth journey. Pack generously on diapers, wipes, and extra clothes to handle unexpected messes. Ensure you have sufficient feeding supplies, including bottles, warmers, and bibs. Don't overlook the importance of comfort items like blankets and favorite toys to soothe and entertain your baby.

A well-stocked diaper bag with essentials, including a first-aid kit, is indispensable. For easy and hygienic diaper changes, pack handy changing padding and throwaway bags. Keep a stash of snacks and drinks for yourself, as well as a few small distractions for when you're at a stop.

What are some effective ways to organise baby supplies for easy access during car travel?

Organise baby supplies in a compact, easy-to-reach diaper bag with compartments for essentials like diapers, wipes, and snacks. Use labeled pouches or zippered bags for smaller items. Keep frequently used supplies in the car's front seat or a designated organiser. This ensures quick access without disrupting your journey.

Baby Feeding Essentials

Ensuring your baby's nutritional needs are met during a road trip is paramount. Pack sufficient feeding supplies regardless of your feeding method. Consider packing ready-to-feed bottles to minimize preparation time. 

If using the formula, pack more than you anticipate needing. Research has shown a link between some baby formulas and NEC, a severe intestinal disease. Consult with your pediatrician about the safest formula options for your baby before your trip. Prioritize safety by carefully considering brands, especially those with a history of NEC lawsuits.

Families impacted by NEC due to specific formulas have sought compensation through lawsuits. Each NEC lawsuit is unique, and an experienced attorney can provide a more accurate assessment based on your case specifics. According to the latest NEC lawsuit update, payout amounts for individual cases may range from $50,000 to over $500,000.

TorHoerman Law states that NEC lawsuits are being pursued in state and federal courts, with federal cases consolidated in multidistrict litigation in Illinois. Separate state court cases follow their timelines. Major trial verdicts, like the $495 million and $60 million awards, may impact settlement negotiations.

What should I do if my baby is on a specialised formula that needs to be kept cold?

If your baby requires specialized formula needing refrigeration, pack it in a well-insulated cooler with ice packs to maintain a safe temperature. Refrigerate the prepared formula within 1 hour of mixing at temperatures below 5°C and use it within the next 24 hours. Use a portable bottle warmer for feeding on the go and restock ice as needed during stops. Always check the formula's temperature before use to ensure safety.

Monitor Your Baby’s Comfort

Ensuring your baby’s comfort is essential for a stress-free road trip. Dress your baby in comfortable, weather-appropriate clothing that allows for easy movement. Adjust the car's temperature and avoid directing vents towards your baby. Use sunshades for windows to block harsh sunlight and prevent overheating.

Look for signs of discomfort like fussiness, crying, or rubbing their eyes. Prioritize your baby's adequate sleep during the trip. ScienceDirect explains that babies' brains are still forming synapses, which are crucial for learning, attention, and memory. 

Sleep helps these neurons develop and connect, establishing lifelong brain functions. Disrupting this process through frequent waking can have lasting effects on brain development and behavior. 

Be Flexible and Patient

Road trips with a baby rarely go exactly as planned, so flexibility and patience are essential. Be flexible with your schedule to account for unforeseen circumstances. A calm attitude helps you adapt quickly and keeps the journey enjoyable for everyone.

If your baby becomes restless, take a break to stretch and reset. Be prepared to adjust your route or itinerary to prioritise your baby’s comfort and well-being. Remember, a relaxed approach creates a more positive experience for both you and your little one.

How can I make road trips more enjoyable for both me and my baby?

To make road trips enjoyable for both you and your baby, plan regular stops for feeding, diaper changes, and playtime. Bring toys, soothing music, or white noise to calm your baby, and align travel with nap times. Pack essentials, including snacks for yourself, stay patient, and embrace the journey for positive memories.

Embrace the Journey with Confidence

Spontaneous road trips with your baby can create lasting memories and offer opportunities for exciting new discoveries. By planning ahead and prioritising safety, you can manage the challenges of traveling with a baby while ensuring everyone’s comfort. With proper preparation and the right mindset, your road trip will become a memorable adventure you and your baby will cherish.

A rainy walk along the beach

I needed to clear my head this morning, so even though it was raining I took myself for a cold, blustery walk along the beach.

It always helps to get some fresh air and exercise.

Going through my Ebay phase

A few years ago I remember loving this post from Mum of Three World - My son, gaming and the eBay phase. She wrote about how her two sons had both gone through an 'eBay phase', busily selling both their own and other people's things on eBay. Apparently many teenage boys go through this, so I've been eagerly awaiting the day when one of my teenagers shows an interest. Sadly it hasn't happened yet!

Now that our extension work is complete, I've been working on moving everything back in to our new space, and also casting my eyes over the other rooms. In particular our top floor guest bedroom has become a dumping ground for toys which the children have outgrown. Most of the room was filled with huge boxes and drawers of Lego, both sorted and unsorted.

The Lego has been bothering me for some time. The children have many sets that they love and want to keep, even some on display in their rooms, but there are also lots of sets that were only built once and never played with. My husband is a sucker for a bargain! There were a couple of unopened Star Wars Lego sets, some Minecraft Lego, and lots of those tiny sets which at one point they used to give away free with the newspaper.

I've been collecting boxes for ages, and so a month or so ago I gathered all the Lego in one place and began the painstaking task of sorting it all out. I've always been pretty good with the Lego and many sets were together and complete, but I had a huge box of random Lego which I had to hunt through again and again to find a missing piece. In the end I just sorted the odd bits of Lego out into categories - it took a whole weekend but it made the whole job much easier!

I decided that the best place to sell was eBay. We've been using eBay since 2002 and have bought and sold a reasonable amount over the years so our account is in good standing. Things have changed a lot over the years, and the process is so much easier. There are also no fees at the moment and the money can go straight to your bank account so there are no PayPal fees like there used to be.

I found a corresponding box for each of my sets to sell, and made notes about the condition of the set and weight. Then last week I began listing them on eBay. To my delight, in only the first week I made 11 sales and enough money to make the whole process worth it. 

I've made it as easy as I can on myself. Everything is set to a Buy it Now price. I offer free postage, so I set my price very slightly above the average selling price with postage and it means I can combine several orders from the same person. I don't allow offers from buyers, so there's no unnecessary correspondence to worry about. I send my parcels using InPost as there is a locker just around the corner. It's so easy - you print the label at home using your eBay balance, you can track it through the app and most importantly you can send a parcel without having to queue up at the post office and talk to someone!

It's an addictive thing - I'm constantly checking the app to see if I've made a sale and I'm looking around the house to see what I can list next. I have a massive stash of boxes ready to be filled! If the teenagers do end up getting on board we will end up with an empty house!

Timeless Tales: Uncover Europe's most captivating libraries

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Libraries are sanctuaries of knowledge, culture, and history, serving as gateways to the vast worlds contained within books. Across Europe, stunning libraries beckon with their architectural beauty and rich collections. From the grand halls of ancient institutions to modern spaces that inspire creativity, these libraries are not only places to read but also to marvel at the artistry and dedication that has gone into their creation. If you’re looking to explore the literary heart of Europe, embark on a journey that takes you from the classics in Paris to contemporary wonders in Amsterdam, all connected by scenic train routes.

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The Historic Elegance of the Bibliothèque Nationale de France

In the heart of Paris, the Bibliothèque Nationale de France (BNF) stands as a testament to France’s literary heritage. Established in the 14th century, this library has evolved over the centuries and now boasts an extensive collection that includes rare manuscripts, maps, and historical documents. The striking architecture of the BNF, particularly its modern François Mitterrand site with its towering glass towers, offers a beautiful contrast to the historical elements of the collection.

Visitors can easily spend hours wandering through the reading rooms, admiring the intricate details of the architecture and soaking in the scholarly atmosphere. If you're travelling on the train from Paris to Amsterdam, the BNF makes a perfect starting point for your literary adventure, allowing you to indulge in the romance of French literature before heading north.

Amsterdam’s Iconic Openbare Bibliotheek

Once you arrive in Amsterdam, the Openbare Bibliotheek is a must-visit. This modern public library, located along the waterfront, is one of the largest in Europe and is designed to be a hub of creativity and community. Its sleek, contemporary architecture features spacious reading rooms, a café with a view of the city, and a children’s area that invites families to explore the joys of reading together.

The library hosts numerous events, including author readings and workshops, making it a vibrant part of Amsterdam’s cultural scene. As you relax with a book, you can also enjoy stunning views of the city and the IJ River. The Openbare Bibliotheek is a fantastic place to spend a rainy afternoon, and it serves as a perfect conclusion to your journey through some of Europe’s most enchanting libraries.

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The Literary Legacy of the Edinburgh Central Library

In the heart of Edinburgh, the Edinburgh Central Library is another must-visit for literature lovers. Established in 1890, this grand library not only serves as a resource for the community but also stands as an architectural landmark with its stunning Victorian facade. Inside, visitors can explore a vast collection that includes over a million books, manuscripts, and periodicals. The library hosts various events, including author talks, poetry readings, and workshops, fostering a vibrant literary community. One of its highlights is the Writers’ Room, dedicated to Scotland’s literary greats, which showcases the works and lives of authors such as Sir Walter Scott and Robert Louis Stevenson. With its welcoming atmosphere and rich history, the Edinburgh Central Library invites visitors to immerse themselves in the literary traditions of Scotland while enjoying the charm of this historic city. After soaking in the literary legacy of Edinburgh, visitors can easily take the Edinburgh to London train, to explore the capital's renowned libraries.

The Rich History of the British Library

No exploration of London's literary scene would be complete without a visit to the British Library, one of the world’s largest and most comprehensive libraries. Established in 1973, the British Library houses over 170 million items, including rare manuscripts, maps, and recordings, making it a treasure trove for scholars and casual readers alike. Among its most prized possessions are the Magna Carta, the original manuscript of “Alice's Adventures in Wonderland,” and letters from historical figures such as Jane Austen and Virginia Woolf. The library's striking architecture, featuring a blend of modern and traditional styles, provides a unique backdrop for its extensive collections. With numerous exhibitions and events throughout the year, the British Library not only serves as a research hub but also as a cultural centre that celebrates literature, history, and the arts. Visitors can enjoy the tranquil reading rooms or partake in workshops that delve into various aspects of literary history. After a visit to this iconic institution, guests can continue their literary journey by exploring other historic libraries across the city.

The Literary Haven of the National Library of Scotland

While in Scotland, don’t miss the National Library of Scotland in Edinburgh. This library is a treasure trove of knowledge, housing millions of items including manuscripts, maps, and audio-visual materials. The library’s impressive collection reflects the rich literary heritage of Scotland and its contributions to global culture.

The stunning architecture and serene reading spaces make it a delightful place for scholars and casual readers alike. The National Library frequently hosts exhibitions and events that showcase Scottish history, literature, and the arts, providing visitors with a deeper understanding of the nation’s cultural identity.

Modern Marvels: The Stuttgart City Library

If your travels take you to Germany, the Stuttgart City Library is an architectural marvel worth exploring. This modern library stands out for its striking white facade and minimalist design, offering a stark contrast to traditional library aesthetics. Inside, the library boasts an open and airy layout, with shelves that stretch to the ceiling and a central atrium flooded with natural light.

Visitors are encouraged to explore the library’s vast collection, which includes books in multiple languages, multimedia resources, and spaces for reading and study. The Stuttgart City Library is not just a place to borrow books; it’s a community hub that hosts workshops, art exhibitions, and cultural events, making it a vibrant part of the city’s life.

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The Legacy of the Library of Trinity College Dublin

Lastly, in Dublin, the Library of Trinity College is a historical gem that should not be overlooked. Home to the famous Book of Kells, this library is an iconic symbol of Irish heritage. The Long Room, with its rows of ancient books and beautiful wooden arches, is a breathtaking sight and a favourite spot for photography.

Visitors can take guided tours to learn about the history of the library and its collection, as well as the importance of the Book of Kells in Irish culture. The tranquil environment encourages reflection, making it an ideal place to immerse oneself in the world of literature.

The Magnificence of the Royal Library of Belgium

As you journey into Belgium, a stop at the Royal Library of Belgium in Brussels is essential. Known locally as the Koninklijke Bibliotheek, this library is one of the largest and most important in the country. The library's impressive collection includes works from the Renaissance period, a significant collection of Flemish manuscripts, and a vast array of contemporary literature.

The architecture is equally captivating, with its blend of neo-Renaissance and modern styles. The library regularly hosts exhibitions, making it an excellent place to experience Belgium’s cultural richness. This library embodies the spirit of Belgian creativity, and its tranquil reading areas are perfect for a quiet moment with a good book.

Conclusion: A Journey Through Europe's Literary Landscape

As you travel through Europe, the captivating libraries you encounter will enrich your understanding of each country’s literary and cultural heritage. From the historic elegance of the Bibliothèque Nationale de France to the modern innovation of the Stuttgart City Library, these institutions offer much more than just books—they are living monuments to the power of knowledge and creativity.

Each library tells a story of its own, inviting you to step inside and discover the timeless tales that await within their walls. Embrace the beauty of these literary havens and let them inspire your journey through Europe.