Mia is approaching 17 months old, and we're going through a stroppy phase. I do feel sorry for young toddlers, it must be so frustrating not to be able to communicate what you want, and to not understand why you can't do something or have something. It's no wonder that they get cross. I remember experiencing a huge breakthrough with Harry once he could understand the concept of "first we will do this, then we will do that". It gets much easier once you can reason with toddlers (and also once they can understand bribes!).
Mia expresses her frustration very differently to Harry. Harry would pretty much just whinge and complain constantly. Mia is a lot more content generally, but if something isn't to her liking she will scream hysterically. I was spared with Harry, but I think that she is going to be the one lying down in the aisle in the supermarket, screaming and kicking her feet.
I am finding it very difficult at the moment to get things done around the house, like housework or cooking. Mia is either screaming angrily and hanging off my legs, or disappearing off to cause mischief, often up the stairs and usually by emptying cupboards. At least I can pop Harry in front of the television for a little bit, to sit quietly while I make dinner!
I have in mind that it was around 18 months that Harry began to have a bit more understanding, and became that bit easier to deal with. Not long to go!
Also I think when they're babies, if they cry you do give them what they want to stop them crying, because the only things they want are food, a clean nappy or a cuddle. When they get older their wants become more complicated but they're used to getting whatever they want. If that makes sense. So tantrums happen because you won't give them the sharp knife or let them eat soap or take them on the swings in the rain. It must all seem very unfair!
ReplyDeleteThat's very true, I hadn't really thought of that. Although I couldn't always stop my babies crying. But they do get cross when they can't understand why they can't do something, poor things!
DeleteYou will get there eventually, then you will be sorry that they are all grown up!
ReplyDeleteI know, I keep meaning to take some pictures of them when they are screaming so when I get nostalgic I can remind myself that it wasn't always easy!
DeleteFingers crossed she will grow out of that phase quick enough, hopefully you will be saved from a public tantrum!
ReplyDeleteThank you, I hope so too!
DeleteSounds like my Alfie! He is one of those on the floor supermarket tantrum types (or outside school- did i need anymore reasons to be outcast-ed lol)Goodluck! x
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